Chaos to Calm: Daily Routines to Reclaim Precious Moments and Tools to Help
There’s a particular kind of tired that comes from constantly running on empty. It isn’t even relieved by sleep. It’s a mental overload that comes from never having a moment to yourself. From moving from one demand to the next without pause. From existing in a perpetual state of chaos. Maybe it doesn’t even feel like chaos in the moment, but put these moments back to back to back and you end up drained. Of energy. Of joy. Of motivation.
We’ve all been there…the days blur together…it’s Monday…it’s Friday…it’s Sunday night again and you’re staring at another Monday morning. Somewhere along the way, you just forget to include moments of actual calm. Peace doesn’t have to be reserved for vacations, or date night, or even coffee with friends. It is something you can create in the ordinary spaces of your daily routine.
Small, intentional moments can be carved out of your day. Five minutes here, ten minutes there. Tiny pockets of calm that will break the cycle of back to back to back noise. When the cycle is broken, for even a few minutes, chaos can’t take hold.
“Self-Care:” Real or Imaginary
I don’t like the term self-care. It sounds selfish. It sounds medicinal. It sounds fake. And, the version women have been sold doesn’t work for most of us…bubble baths, face masks, and coffee by the fireplace. Maybe we don’t need self-care, maybe we just need calming moments…and those can be incredibly simple
- Drinking your coffee while it’s still hot
- Taking three minutes to close your eyes and take deep breaths
- Setting aside 15 minutes to actually taste your lunch instead of eating over your keyboard
- Stretching for 5 minutes before climbing into bed
- Taking a 10 minute walk
These aren’t indulgences. They’re necessities. They’re the difference between just surviving and actually living.
Daily Habits: From Chaos to Calm
After years of trial and error, I’ve built a collection of small rituals that anchor my days. They’re not complicated. They don’t require hours of free time. But they’ve given me back something I thought I’d lost: the ability to feel present in my own life.
Morning Routine: Begin With Intention Not Noise
The way you start your morning can set the tone for the entire day. A calm morning doesn’t mean you have to wake up at 5:00 and meditate for 45 minutes. Just spend a few minutes being intentional and push away the urgency that seems to overtake this part of the day.
Try This in the Morning:
Don’t Pick Up Your Phone for 5 minutes
Ideally, leave your phone in another room overnight and wake to a gentle alarm clock instead. Even if you have your phone, spend the first five minutes simply existing. Stretch. Look out the window. Pray. Meditate. Sing a song. Whatever works to slow you down.
This moment of calm before flooding your nervous system with information might just change your whole day.
Adding Moments of Calm to Your Day
I have found a few things that I enjoy and just by their nature force me to slow down for a moment. Pick one or two to add to your day.
Essential Oil Diffuser
If you don’t have one, they aren’t expensive but they feel like you’ve splurged. The key is to use only a small amount of oil, one or two drops, so it isn’t overwhelming. I like one with lights…every time I catch a glimpse of it, it makes me smile. Here are some features to look for:
- Large water capacity (150ml+) so it runs for several hours
- Automatic shut-off for safety
- Quiet operation—you don’t want it sounding like a jet engine
- LED light option
Here’s a good one: https://amzn.to/4pnboVB
Intentional Beverage Moment
I’m a coffee drinker. I can drink it all day and I usually drink it without cream or sugar. But, hear me out, for one of your beverage breaks, do something different. When I take 5 minutes to steep a cup of tea using a tea infuser, I feel like I’ve spent 30 minutes in a bubble bath…it’s crazy, but it’s relaxing. And, if you aren’t a tea drinker, go find a tea and spice shop and start smelling the options. You’ll find one that smells like something lovely. Pick that one. And, while you’re there, consider buying yourself a nice tea mug! You deserve it!
If you’re just really a coffee person, then take 5 minutes and froth some hot milk to go in your coffee (or add frothed milk to your tea. It feels decadent. If you like oat milk, or almond milk…those froth up nicely too!
Making Tea:
- Boil water and let it cool for a minute or stop it right before it hits a boil. If the water is too hot, it will burn the tea and it won’t taste as good. Trust me.
- Measure loose leaf tea into an infuser (see link below)
- Pour water over the tea and let it steep, while you wait, for 3-5 minutes
- That’s it…you’ll feel like you’ve done something good for yourself
- Add sugar, frothed milk, even ice on a hot day, or simply drink it as it is
A quality tea infuser changed everything. I use a large-basket infuser that gives the leaves room to bloom, which genuinely makes better tea and turns the process into something meditative.
This is a good one: https://amzn.to/3MdwUxL
Want to froth milk, try this simple one: https://amzn.to/49xJT7q Caution: turn it off and on while it is fully immersed in the milk, or you’ll be cleaning up…and that isn’t relaxing! If you want something a little nicer that will heat the milk too, I like this one: https://amzn.to/482EeoN
By noon, the day has usually delivered its first round of stress. Emails have piled up. Meetings have run long. Someone said something that annoyed you. The chaos creeps back in.
This is when most people power through—grab a quick lunch, maybe some more coffee, and push forward. This is also when I used to develop tension headaches that would last the rest of the day.
The New Approach: I take a 15-minute reset. Non-negotiable.
The Midday Ritual:
Lunch Away From Screens (15 minutes)
Step completely away from your desk and your phone. Even if you’re eating a protein bar, a bag of carrot sticks, or a smoothie. Step away from your desk and put down your phone. Taste your food. Clear your head. They say this even helps with digestion if you need another reason.
We’re trained to constantly consume information. Eating without distraction feels weird at first, like you’re wasting your time. But this is when your body actually registers that you’ve eaten, leading to better digestion and genuine satisfaction.
The Neck and Shoulder Release (5 minutes)
Most of us hold tension in our neck and shoulders without realizing it. By the middle of the day, we’re walking around with physical tension that only increases mental stress.
I love this neck and shoulder massager: https://amzn.to/48hvKZQ I keep it under my desk and once a day, I try to take 5 minutes and use this on my neck and shoulders, close my eyes and breathe. it even heats up which feels wonderful.
Evening Routine: End the Day Quietly
The Evening Ritual:
I want to turn my phone off, but most days, I’ll be honest, I’m not going to. If you can do it, turn off all your screens at least 30 minutes before bed. Leave your phone in another room.
For me, this may be the only time of the day that I can catch up on the ‘fun’ scrolling…catching up with friends, etc. There are still things you can do to add a breath into your evening routine.
Intentionally shift the energy in your space. Dim the lights, turn off the TV. Lower the thermostat. Turn on some quiet music. Use your oil diffuser with a soft lavender scent. Put on your coziest PJs.
Getting ready for sleep
Now it’s time for bed…now turn your phone off or at least put it down.
- Sit on the floor and stretch for 3-5 minutes.
- Wash your face, brush your teeth.
- Try a face roller. It’s a game changer at the end of the day.
The practice:
Face rolling can reduce puffiness and its very relaxing. Keep the roller in the refrigerator. The cool stone, the repetitive motion, the gentle pressure…it’s like a little meditation. it also removes the tension from your face and forces you to unclench your jaw.
- Start at the center of your face and roll outward and upward
- Roll from your chin along your jawline to your ears
- Roll from your nose across your cheeks
- Roll across your forehead
- Roll down your neck
What to look for in a face roller:
- Real stone (jade or rose quartz), not plastic
- Dual-ended (large roller for cheeks, small for under eyes)
- Smooth rolling action—it shouldn’t stick or skip
- Easy to clean (you’ll want to clean it after each use)
Pro tip: Store your roller in the fridge. The cooling effect is incredibly soothing and helps reduce any puffiness from the day.
Try this one: https://amzn.to/49xpf7g
The Gratitude Close (5 minutes)
Finally, end your day by acknowledging the the things you are grateful for. If you like to, keep a notebook by your bed and write it down. If you pray, give thanks in prayer. Whatever form it takes, take a moment to be thankful for the moments in your day that made you smile.
This practice retrains your brain to notice the good. After doing this for months, you’ll find it easier to notice these moments throughout the day.
The Chaos Will Always Be There
Honestly, the chaos doesn’t go away. The demands don’t decrease. Life is messy. The world doesn’t slow down for you and you can’t turn off completely to the world.
Try just one thing from this post. Not all of it. Just one.
Maybe it’s making your morning coffee a little more special with frothed milk. Maybe it’s taking five minutes at lunch to actually sit down and eat. Maybe it’s adding a face roller to your evening routine.
Start small. Start now. Calm is waiting for you.
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